BONSHEÁ – Yaqui Indian -
meaning out of the darkness into the light.
meaning out of the darkness into the light.
“A nation is not conquered until the hearts of its women are on the ground. Then it is done, no matter how brave it’s warriors, nor how strong their weapons.” - Cheyenne Proverb
Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. and Alice Walker's words have become Coral Anika Theill's personal mantra:
"Resistance is the secret of joy, we should challenge whatever oppresses us, anything we love can be saved, the way forward is with a broken heart, we should lead and not project on others what they should do for us, and we are the ones we have been waiting for."
- Alice Walker
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter."
- Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.
Below is my Press Release, Summary, Reviews and nine NEWS ARTICLES on my life story and published book, BONSHEA: Making Light of the Dark. There are numerous comments posted by friends and professionals who knew me as a nurturing mother for 20 years. I have also included a comment by a U.S. Marine on the front lines in Iraq. He had read my published book, BONSHEA. His comment is enlightening.
I have a personal story to tell of a lifetime of abuse: childhood abuse, marital abuse, mental and physical abuse, sexual abuse, ritual abuse and now finally judicial abuse, condoned first within some of the fundamental, evangelical Christian movements (cults) that thrive today, and now within the very court system of my own country. My story is about the overwhelming stigma that comes with abuse. My story is also about survival and overcoming, truly 'Making Light of the Dark.'
For nearly twenty years, I was married to a man, who ruled his household with absolute authority. His personal justification for his behavior came, from Biblical scripture. During this time I bore him eight children (and suffered three miscarriages), home schooled, renovated three houses, baked, canned, gardened, etc..... I was treated as a possession (slave). In the course of my marriage I was drawn (against my will) into several extreme Christian cults which emphasized patriarchal authority and the obedience of women
I have a personal story to tell of a lifetime of abuse: childhood abuse, marital abuse, mental and physical abuse, sexual abuse, ritual abuse and now finally judicial abuse, condoned first within some of the fundamental, evangelical Christian movements (cults) that thrive today, and now within the very court system of my own country. My story is about the overwhelming stigma that comes with abuse. My story is also about survival and overcoming, truly 'Making Light of the Dark.'
For nearly twenty years, I was married to a man, who ruled his household with absolute authority. His personal justification for his behavior came, from Biblical scripture. During this time I bore him eight children (and suffered three miscarriages), home schooled, renovated three houses, baked, canned, gardened, etc..... I was treated as a possession (slave). In the course of my marriage I was drawn (against my will) into several extreme Christian cults which emphasized patriarchal authority and the obedience of women
The cost of safety from domestic violence and rape in America cost me my 8 children and then 15 years of legal stalking by my ex husband, Mr. Marty Warner, i.e, 42 court hearings, and further trauma and abuse. For the past 13 years, I have lived under a "state address protection program" from my ex husband, his family and Christian supporters who were involved in my court case, i.e, many from Bridgeport Community Church, Monmouth, Oregon.
I have had no visitation/contact with my 7 of my 8 children since 1998. Losing your children is like having oil poured on you and lit on fire. In 1995, my 14 year old son, Aaron, ran away at the time I was seeking safety and help for my children and I. He never returned to live with my ex husband. He is still healing from the severe physical and psychological abuse inflicted from his father and the ritual and psychological abuse from local church members and leaders.
I wrote in BONSHEA, that "some people are so heavenly conscious, they are no earthly good. It grieves my heart that my several of my children attend a legalistic fundamental cult Christian church, i.e, Bridgeport Community Church, Monmouth, Oregon, and that they have been brainwashed to hate and despise me. Many professionals believe some of my children suffer from Stockholm Syndrome. I continue to pray for every one's highest good, believing that the Creator will answer my prayers.
Seventy-five percent of mothers seeking safety from a long term abusive marriage will permanently lose custody of their children. Approximately, 50,000 children a year lose their nurturing, loving mothers via our Family Courts, due to the mother seeking safety from her abuser for herself and her children.
Seventy-five percent of mothers seeking safety from a long term abusive marriage will permanently lose custody of their children. Approximately, 50,000 children a year lose their nurturing, loving mothers via our Family Courts, due to the mother seeking safety from her abuser for herself and her children.
I was homeless for 3 years from 2002-2005, due to my ex husband suing me for child support double the amount of what I earn, court expenses, disability and ongoing trauma, etc . In the 16 years since my plight, I have contacted over 500 local, state and national advocates and there is no help. Many of them tell me quite bluntly, that they will never help me. Some of the advocates have been as abusive as the people I escaped.
There are eight news articles on my life story published at http://salem-news.com/ and one document published at the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence website. Many of these articles are posted on numerous national websites throughout the USA.
Tim King, editor/publisher, war correspondent and former Marine has written several articles on my life story. He and his wife, Bonnie King, own their independent online newspaper http://salem-news.com
and are advocates extraordinaire.
BONSHEA is a good manual for anyone who wishes to pick up the shattered pieces of "self" and find their "harmony, center and balance" in the midst and aftermath of tragedy and trauma. Many combat veterans have been encouraged by my writings.
My first book was published eight years ago, in January 2003. Writing my life story was a "healing crisis." I dedicated my published book, BONSHEA, to my eight children and to all women and men of whatever name, creed or dogma, bound by Church and State, who have not yet dared to reason or think for themselves. I hope my personal life story will encourage all individuals to "walk in beauty."
For the past few years I have been writing newspaper and magazine articles about wounded Marines/soldiers, PTSD, traumatic brain injury and military history. My publications include 2 books, 7 news articles and 4 magazine articles.
For the past few years I have been writing newspaper and magazine articles about wounded Marines/soldiers, PTSD, traumatic brain injury and military history. My publications include 2 books, 7 news articles and 4 magazine articles.
I receive numerous letters regarding my published book, BONSHEA, and life story, questions about the court trauma and abuse, the cult Christian churches that were involved, i.e, Bridgeport Community Church, Monmouth, Oregon, and my children. My readers ask me, "Who are the brutalist Christians and Catholics who are supporting your abuser/rapist ex husband, Mr. Marty Warner." I can now provide my readers and the media with their names and place of employment and/or college.
The document below is long. It covers the last 15 years since my escape from long term violence and abuse. Please review whatever may be helpful. I hope the links and words below will be encouraging to you.
My published book can be ordered at any bookstore. It is also available at http://amazon.com or http://barnesandnoble.com and numerous libraries throughout Oregon, i.e, Corvallis, Salem, Independence, Monmouth, Albany, Linn Benton Community College, and Chemeketa Community College Library.
My published book can be ordered at any bookstore. It is also available at http://amazon.com or http://barnesandnoble.com and numerous libraries throughout Oregon, i.e, Corvallis, Salem, Independence, Monmouth, Albany, Linn Benton Community College, and Chemeketa Community College Library.
If you have any questions about any of the information below, please ask.
Sincerely,
Coral Anika Theill
*I was formerly married to Mr. Marty Warner of Independence, Oregon, (503) 838-1662. My former legal name was Kathryn Y. Warner. Mr. Warner's former employers include CH2M Hill, Hewlett Packard & Clair Company, all of Corvallis, Oregon. Mr. Marty Warner served as chairperson for the Right to Life organization. To date, Right to Life has never responded to my letters of concern.
Mr. Marty Warner's abuse is supported by his seven brothers, sisters, (Bernie Warner, Peggy Warner, Steve Warner, Ed Warner, Donna (Warner) Bronkborst, Dennis Warner, Ray Warner) and his mother, Helen Warner. He is also supported by several of my children and their spouses, i.e, Jessie White, (Albany, Oregon and Ben Bobeda (Monmouth, Oregon, Bridgeport Community Church), and hundreds of Christians and Catholics in the surrounding areas of Monmouth, Fall City, Dallas, Independence,Salem and Corvallis, Oregon, especially those who attend Bridgeport Community Church in Monmouth, Oregon, including Pastor Ron & Marijo Sutter. Several of Mr. Warner's brothers and sisters, including his mother, (Steve & Jane Warner, Peggy Warner and Helen Warner) live in Snohomish, Washington and attend Saint Michael's Catholic Church, in Snohomish, Washington, Parish Priest: Father Joseph Defolco
"Truth crushed to the earth will rise again." - Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.
About the Author
"There is a trauma clearly caused by the actions of another human being, an agent of trauma. But when the traumatic events are of human design, those who bear witness are caught in the conflict between victim and perpetrator. It is morally impossible to remain neutral in this conflict. The bystander is forced to take the side of the perpetrator. All the perpetrator asks is that bystander do NOTHING...the victim, on the contrary, asks the bystander to share the burden of pain. The victim demands action, engagement, and remembering." - Judith Herman, Trauma and Recovery
I am a positive, inspiring, deep warrior soul, brave gypsy heart, a renaissance woman, survivor/overcomer extraordinaire and an angel with a sword standing tall for the Good when it has to be! I don't have any baggage, but I do have a classy luggage rack.
I am a positive, inspiring, deep warrior soul, brave gypsy heart, a renaissance woman, survivor/overcomer extraordinaire and an angel with a sword standing tall for the Good when it has to be! I don't have any baggage, but I do have a classy luggage rack.
I was born in Tawas City, Michigan and grew up in Washington State. I was a straight 'A' student, president of Honor Society, co-valedictorian of my high school class and voted most likely to succeed and most academic. I had received my solo pilot's license and passed the FAA test by the time I was seventeen years old. I volunteered in nursing homes, at schools for the blind and deaf, and took care of a mother who was ill during much of my youth. During my childhood, I suffered years of sexual molestation, physical, mental, verbal and emotional abuse. I do not blame my parents or my childhood for the way my life unfolded.
After high school, I enrolled in court reporter law/school. Twelve months later, I was working as a secretary, bailiff clerk and juvenile court reporter for two Superior Court judges of the State of Washington. My job gave me experience and exposure to our judicial system and to sheriffs, crisis care teams, and district attorneys. I worked for two years prior to my marriage.
For nearly twenty years, I was married to a man, who ruled his household with absolute authority. His personal justification for his behavior came, from Biblical scripture. During this time I bore him eight children (and suffered three miscarriages), home schooled, renovated three houses, baked, canned, gardened, etc..... I was treated as a possession (slave). In the course of my marriage I was drawn (against my will) into several extreme Christian cults which emphasized patriarchal authority and the obedience of women.
Coral Anika Theill is the recipient of the "Woman of Courage Award" 2008 by Andrea Harris, nominated by USMC Combat Veteran, Gene Deutscher and the recipient of the "2011 Lester Granger Award" by the National Montford Point Marine Association.
BONSHEÁ was previewed by the National Domestic Violence Resource Center in Pennsylvania in 2003 and is being recommended as a survivor story. Coral Anika Theill won a "Writer's Award" from iUniverse Publishing Company in November 2002.
BONSHEA has been used as a college text for nursing students at Linfield College studying domestic violence, rape, trauma recovery and legal stalking. Coral was a guest lecturer for nursing students at Linfield College in 2001. Coral was also invited to be the guest speaker on domestic violence and rape by Thurston County Sheriff Kimball in March 2004 for the T.A.S.K. meeting for judges, prosecutors, attorneys, and domestic violence advocates.
The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence featured Coral's story in their October 2009 Newsletter. http://www.ncadv.org/files/Bonshea.php
Coral's life story and her interview regarding domestic violence and judicial injustice was also featured on a radio broadcast in 2010.
If my children ever contact me and ask me what I did to help them, I will tell them, "I told the truth." When they ask me why my case remained unchallenged, I hope I don't have to tell them, "Nobody cared."
A mother does not forget her children -
BONSHEÁ was previewed by the National Domestic Violence Resource Center in Pennsylvania in 2003 and is being recommended as a survivor story. Coral Anika Theill won a "Writer's Award" from iUniverse Publishing Company in November 2002.
BONSHEA has been used as a college text for nursing students at Linfield College studying domestic violence, rape, trauma recovery and legal stalking. Coral was a guest lecturer for nursing students at Linfield College in 2001. Coral was also invited to be the guest speaker on domestic violence and rape by Thurston County Sheriff Kimball in March 2004 for the T.A.S.K. meeting for judges, prosecutors, attorneys, and domestic violence advocates.
The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence featured Coral's story in their October 2009 Newsletter. http://www.ncadv.org/files/Bonshea.php
Coral's life story and her interview regarding domestic violence and judicial injustice was also featured on a radio broadcast in 2010.
If my children ever contact me and ask me what I did to help them, I will tell them, "I told the truth." When they ask me why my case remained unchallenged, I hope I don't have to tell them, "Nobody cared."
A mother does not forget her children -
HALL OF SHAME
There are individuals mentioned in my story who refused to acknowledge the horrors of my survival of marital abuse and my cry for help. They became an obstacle to my basic human rights---freedom and safety. I am holding them responsible and accountable for the continued trauma I have experienced throughout the past several years. I am requesting that acts of disrespect, dishonesty and violence against me be acknowledged and resolved.
To the individuals, groups and Christian church members who have supported Mr. Marty Warner's brutality and abuse these past 18 years: including the court trauma and injustice, matricide, spousal and child abuse, rape, battering, slander, ritual, spiritual, and legal abuse: I know who you are, you know who you are, but most importantly, GOD knows who you are.
I have published this document in the hopes that the supporters of my abuser may be moved to advocate for my EMANCIPATION from Mr. Marty Warner by January 1, 2012. I believe in the theories of "morphogenic fields" - stepping outside of the given.
Today, November 1, 2011, I am believing in imminent possibilities, surprises and miracles. I believe that some of my ex husband's family, friends and supporters will show up to advocate for me. At this point, I truly don't care what their intentions may be, i.e., they may not want to be wish to have their names exposed or associated with the brutality and the criminal behavior of their friend and/or brother, Mr. Marty Warner.
- I want Mr. Warner, his family and religious supporters to stop their lies and slander against me. I was contacted by a friend in Oregon last week due to one of Mr. Warner's new Christian acquaintances inquiring about me. I learned that Mr. Warner had told her at a church gathering that I was "dead and had committed suicide."
- I want the Child Support Summary Judgment Mr. Marty Warner (my ex husband, rapist and abuser) has against me through the Polk County District Attorney's Office, Dallas, Oregon, to be dismissed. He sued me for twice the amount I earn while I was homeless and destitute. Due to the fact that I am disabled, live under poverty level and cannot afford to pay my ex husband/abuser child support, the District Attorney's office has revoked my passport privileges. This Summary Judgment has also given them the right to recommend that the courts punish me with jail time and/or revoke my driver's license.
- I want Mr. Brian and Kathy King, Independence, Oregon, to return the monies they took from me by charging their attorney fees on my attorney's bill in 1995 - Mr. Richard Alway, Salem, Oregon. I sent several letters in regards to this matter, but to no AVAIL. They were not my friends, then, they are not my friends now. What they did to me is appalling!
- Last but not least, I want my personal journals of 1993-1995 returned to me. I was awarded the journals in my divorce in 1997 per Order of the Court. My ex husband and his attorney read the journals out loud in court to humiliate me but have refused to release them to me.
(Excerpts of a letter sent to Mr. Marty Warner, Independence, Oregon - Spring 1996)
Dear Marty, This letter is being written after much prayer and thought. Please hear me out. Although I didn’t know you well or very personally when we worked together at CH2M, (1976) I regarded you as a nice young man with your feet on the ground. After meeting Kathy, I thought you and she were a fine, young couple to whom my daughter Deborah (Dresler) could relate as Christian friends. You may ask what business is it of mine to butt into your personal life. Just this. I think you may still regard yourself as a Christian, so as a brother in Christ I am following the exhortation to rebuke you (Luke 17:3). Not only have you destroyed your own life, but that of your family, as well. I am appalled by your non-Christian behavior!
Dear Marty, This letter is being written after much prayer and thought. Please hear me out. Although I didn’t know you well or very personally when we worked together at CH2M, (1976) I regarded you as a nice young man with your feet on the ground. After meeting Kathy, I thought you and she were a fine, young couple to whom my daughter Deborah (Dresler) could relate as Christian friends. You may ask what business is it of mine to butt into your personal life. Just this. I think you may still regard yourself as a Christian, so as a brother in Christ I am following the exhortation to rebuke you (Luke 17:3). Not only have you destroyed your own life, but that of your family, as well. I am appalled by your non-Christian behavior!
How any man can keep his wife in bondage for some 18-20 years, father eight of her children; expect her to raise them by his rigid, undeviating, pre-planned schedules, home school the oldest five while caring for the youngest three, in addition to her regular household chores; push her to the depth of despair (and almost over the edge)–then cast her aside like a piece of tattered clothing–is beyond my understanding.
To take a nursing baby from his mother’s breast, to turn your children against their mother and put them in charge of her, and to withhold common acts of decency from a wife you have controlled for most of her married life are the acts of a hardened heart, and are not Christlike. Cults are of the devil, Marty. Who is driving your life?
I don’t know where you found those "Christian" lawyers, or how the judge could have ruled as he did. It is neither right nor just. Kathy deserves better. She should not be deprived of the three youngest children. May God grant you wisdom in deciding how you pursue your remaining years. Prayerfully it will be by resolving to abide in Jesus. This is the only way it can be. Sincerely, - Jack Meier, Bend, Oregon
Please read Coral Theill's additional blogs by clicking to "Next Post" at bottom of this page:
- KATE O'HALLORAN'S LETTER OF ADVOCACY to Mr. Warner's Family (Warner & O'Halloran)
- SUMMARY OF BONSHEA: Making Light of the Dark 1973 through 2011
- Coral Anika Theill - DOCUMENTATION, AFFIDAVITS & LETTERS (Including Affidavit signed by Debbie Custis, co-worker who Mr. Warner abused at Hewlett Packard
COMMENTS and NEWS ARTICLES
"Nothing about the system is any better than the people it leaves behind in the rubble."
- Tim King, Editor, War Correspondent and former Marine
"Just when you though you knew what was going on in your community, here comes a story that just may shatter the security of your American Dream. This is a story about abuse, survival, false religion and dubious court systems in a state that may be advanced on some levels, but sometimes proves to be a miserable failure in terms of equity and fairness and conventional thinking.
"No aspect of the system worked the way it was supposed to for her, and as long as Coral remains banned from her children and railroaded by a court and law enforcement system that ignores marital rape charges, then her case stands as a measurement gauge for the entire state of Oregon. Nothing about the system is any better than the people it leaves behind in the rubble." - Tim King, Editor, War Correspondent and former Marine
BONSHEÁ engaged my attention immediately, and then enraged me. The author has endured huge suffering at the hands of brutalists hiding behind the masks of pseudo Christianity and "justice for all." The author continues to stride toward the light in her own life-at huge personal cost-and to bring her story forward for all to consider and act upon. – Karen Goldammer...South Dakota
Wow. I'm from the midwest and grew up in the sticks. I grew up amongst hicks and mentally unstable religious nuts, but this (story) takes the cake. I'm actually pretty shocked right now, especially over the Oregon Medical Board decision. It simply goes to reinforce my dim view of this country and humanity. Ignorant, self-serving, sickening fanatics are everywhere. And are, unfortunately, far too regularly allowed to hold positions of authority. - William, October 17, 2008
"This article [story] is easily portraying the most disturbing series of events I have seen happen to any one person. How injustice can occur at so many corners and in so many flavors to this woman is, quite frankly, unbelievable in 2007. The opening may appear like any other husband emotionally abusing his wife...but what happens when the system does the same?" - Newsvine.com
"It's obvious to me, as it should be to anyone who reads this story, that these children were taken away from Ms. Theill as a method of revenge and manipulation, not by GOD, but by her ex-husband. This is a slap in the face against all true believers who practice humility, meekness and turning the other cheek. Apparently Mr. Warner has desired to extract much more than a "pound of flesh", but to try to destroy his wife's very life, stopping short of murder. And in the process, hasn't given any consideration whatever to the harm done to his own children by his vicious, vindictive behavior.
"As a Christian who takes the teachings of Christianity seriously, I can only say that no true believer would ever resort to going to the lengths Mr. Warner has against his wife, not only taking her children away, but harassing her in the courts, and extracting "child support" money he DIDN'T NEED from the woman who bore his children. Shame on him and shame on the Oregon courts and judges that perpetrated these disgraceful acts. I'm beginning to think these custody cases should be decided by a panel of "successfully married" couples with children, with no hidden "legalistic" religion or other agendas, not by lone wolf judges and shrewd and unethical divorce lawyers out for a buck." - Barbara Mathews - May 9, 2010
"It's obvious to me, as it should be to anyone who reads this story, that these children were taken away from Ms. Theill as a method of revenge and manipulation, not by GOD, but by her ex-husband. This is a slap in the face against all true believers who practice humility, meekness and turning the other cheek. Apparently Mr. Warner has desired to extract much more than a "pound of flesh", but to try to destroy his wife's very life, stopping short of murder. And in the process, hasn't given any consideration whatever to the harm done to his own children by his vicious, vindictive behavior.
"As a Christian who takes the teachings of Christianity seriously, I can only say that no true believer would ever resort to going to the lengths Mr. Warner has against his wife, not only taking her children away, but harassing her in the courts, and extracting "child support" money he DIDN'T NEED from the woman who bore his children. Shame on him and shame on the Oregon courts and judges that perpetrated these disgraceful acts. I'm beginning to think these custody cases should be decided by a panel of "successfully married" couples with children, with no hidden "legalistic" religion or other agendas, not by lone wolf judges and shrewd and unethical divorce lawyers out for a buck." - Barbara Mathews - May 9, 2010
A U.S. Marine, on the front lines in Iraq, wrote this comment in response to Tim King’s article on my life story on Mother's Day, May 2007. He had read Coral Theill's book and was shocked and grieved by her story of horror experienced in America's family court system. Here is the comment he posted. "We receive so many comments from people back in the states 'Thanking us for their freedom.' Well, the thought of some of those people being the ones who put Ms. Coral through what she has been through makes me ask the question; "What the hell are we over here fighting for, so the American Man will have the freedom to do what? Abuse, rape, torture not only strangers but their own wives!" And we fight so certain public figures will have the right to protect them. One lady compared the treatment of American women to those of other countries and I can tell you as bad as Iraq and Afghanistan is towards their women (and I have seen them both first hand), I have never heard of a story as bad as this one and because of that it's even sadder.
We, as a society have the technology to put 'Men on the Moon,' but we, as a society can't fix the problem of 'lack of support' for victims of domestic abuse. I will go on patrol tomorrow here in Iraq and risk my life and the lives of my fellow Marines so Mr. Warner and all those supporting him can continue to do what they do! 'Only in America.' Ms. Coral, keep your head up 'Change is going to come,'” 'SEMPER FI'
PRESS RELEASE
BONSHEÁ: Making Light of the Dark
BONSHEÁ: Making Light of the Dark
by Coral Anika Theill
Author, Advocate, Survivor and Reporter
"Every so often a book is written that touches the heart. This is such a book. BONSHEÁ is an unforgettable story that will leave an indelible mark on your psyche." - Addie Archer, Washington
I have a personal story to tell of twenty years of marital abuse, mental and physical, condoned within some of the fundamental, evangelical Christian movements (cults) that thrive today. My story is also about injustice, the failings of the Oregon court system, and the stigma associated with mental illness.
BONSHEÁ: Making Light of the Dark shares my search for freedom and light in a society based on patriarchal religion and laws. It openly speaks about the ideas and beliefs in our society which foster sexism, racism, the denigration of human rights and the intolerance of difference. My documentation exposes the dark side of human nature when all people are not valued. A healthy society must have the courage to address these issues, speak about them, examine them and bring them to light. Indifference encourages, "silent violence"-the type of violence I experienced in my home, in the community, religious circles and judicial system. Nobel laureate, Elie Wiesel states, "The indifference to suffering makes the human inhumane."
A few years ago, I believed by sharing my truth and breaking my silence, my very life would be threatened. Breaking the silence and "telling secrets" takes courage. I have discovered there is more danger in keeping secrets. If violence cannot be talked about, it cannot be stopped. I truly believe more victims would be willing to share their pain, fear and shame if they could expect to be believed, respected and vindicated.
"On March 10, 1996, I was forced, by an Order of the Court, and by my ex-husband, his attorney, his family and religious supporters, to do something that raged against my good conscience, my common sense and against all my motherly instincts. After a temporary custody hearing, a Court Order signed by Judge Norblad forcibly removed my nursing baby and two youngest children from me. I obeyed the Court Order and gave my children over to my ex-husband. I drove to the hospital, rented a breast-pump and later collapsed and went into shock. I could not understand what had happened and why. I have not yet recovered from the shock; perhaps I never will....
Mr. Warner and his attorney, Mr. Lawrence, were pleased....they had taken away my children. They did not know, though, that they would never be able to take away my soul, my dignity, my inner joy or my freedom-those things that are a part of our sacred ground. No one outside ourselves can rule us inwardly. When we know this, we are truly free. " (Excerpt from BONSHEA)
INTRODUCTION
"Plato spoke to the relative inability of people to take in information outside their usual belief systems in his enduring classic The Republic. There were a people who lived in chains, facing the back of a dark cave. The only reality they knew consisted of shadows cast by the activity from the outside world. Finally, one of them became bold enough to try to escape. He returned to set the people in the cave free from the prison of their illusions, reporting on a miraculous outside world of light, color and substance. The others could not believe him. They thought he was crazy because the new information could not be integrated into their previous experience."
- Joan Boryensko, Ph.D. Fire in the Soul
District Attorney John Haroldson:
"Casting religion in a negative light, can often invite a strong reaction mixed with accusations of heresy and un-Godliness. Such reactions can have a chilling effect on those who might wish to express a negative human experience, namely domestic abuse, where religion has been used as a vehicle to enable the abuse. In BONSHEA, Coral Theill confronts this troublesome dynamic in an anecdotal account, which underscores the degree to which religion, and the legal system, can be used to enable systematic domestic abuse. In doing so, Coral Theill has ventured into relatively uncharted territory in a manner which may well draw detractors, but at the same time offers great validation for those who find themselves entangled in an abusive relationship buttressed with religious justification.
In addition to broaching this form of religious distortion, BONSHEA also illustrates the degree to which the legal system can also be used as a vehicle to further perpetuate abuse even after the victim has chosen to take a stand against the abuse. In BONSHEA, Coral Theill has clearly chosen to take a courageous stand. It is a stand that comes with a cost, but whose dividends are measured in the strength of the soul." – John Haroldson, Deputy District Attorney, Benton County District Attorney's Office, Corvallis, Oregon
Dr. Barbara May, Professor of Nursing, Linfield College, Portland, Oregon
"Coral Theill's BONSHEÁ is intense in its effort to "open the doors" behind which many domestic violence perpetrators have stood for so long in the name of "privacy." She dispels painful secrets about the abuse and the violence in her life and the lives of her children, which is chilling to read about because of its pervasiveness, its limitlessness and its consequences. At every level-family and friends, key people in her community, the health care system, the legal and judicial system, and the culture which socializes us all-she met with adversity and re-victimization. In the telling of her recovery, which is truly remarkable given her circumstances, the reader gets a vivid sense of the indominability of her spirit and light. The strategies she shares with the reader can make a difference between being a victim and being a survivor.
“Her story is compelling reading for anyone living or surviving this experience. I recommend this book for health care providers, those in the criminal justice system, and volunteers or helpers of any kind to get insights and clarity about the complex dynamics of domestic violence and its toxic effects to individuals and society-and what needs to be done to eradicate this pandemic problem." – Barbara A. May, PhD, RN PMHP, Professor of Nursing, Portland, Oregon
Dr. Barbara May, Professor of Nursing at Linfield College in Portland, Oregon, has documented my domestic violence case as one of the most obscene and violent cases she has been involved with in her 25 years of psychiatric practice. She has been my mentor since 1997.
“A nation is not conquered until the hearts of its women are on the ground. Then it is done, no matter how brave it’s warriors, nor how strong their weapons.” - Cheyenne Proverb
After surviving years of childhood and marital abuse and neglect, a woman suffers a physical collapse, partial stroke and severe mental/nervous breakdown. While in a near catatonic state, the woman is physically assaulted and raped. She becomes pregnant.
Toward the final stages of her pregnancy, she fully recovers from her breakdown. She births her baby, and mother and baby enjoy bonding and breastfeeding. The mother cherishes her newborn son. After undergoing several psychiatric tests and evaluations, her physicians state that she is well.
Her abuser, the father of the child, manipulates the judicial system and seeks custody of the baby. With intervention from the religious community and testimony about the mother's prior mental history, the father is awarded custody of the nursing infant. The mother is ordered to pay her rapist/abuser exorbitant child support while suffering from homelessness and disabilities. She is no longer allowed contact with her child. When the baby is abruptly taken away, the mother goes into shock.
The 'father of the child' has committed crimes against the mother according to Oregon statutes and laws (Chapter 743, Oregon Laws 1971, 163.375), but is embraced and rewarded in our judicial and religious system. The victim becomes the criminal. I am this woman; this baby is my child; and the father of this child is my ex-husband.
Date: Coral Anika Theill's Oregon Circuit Court case began December 1995 to present (2011)
County, City and State: Polk County, Dallas, Oregon
Judge Albin Norblad was involved in Ms. Theill's case from 1996-1997, Judge Luukinen from 1998-1999, Judge Paula Brownhill from 2003 - Present
Judge Albin Norblad, Salem, Oregon, has been removing babies and children per court order from good/nurturing mothers for almost 30 years.
Due to poverty and disabilities, Coral has had no attorney since 1997. No advocate or domestic violence group, on a local, state or national level, has assisted her personally or legally with her case.
I have spent long hours trying to make some sense of my life and have come to
the conclusion that when horror overcomes us, the only response possible is to
remember what happened and tell the story. - Coral Anika Theill
the conclusion that when horror overcomes us, the only response possible is to
remember what happened and tell the story. - Coral Anika Theill
Summary of BONSHEA
by Coral Anika Theill
Escaping Domestic Violence, Spiritual & Ritual Abuse, Rape, Judicial Injustice -
Healing & Recovery
"And the time came when the pain in the bud became greater than the risk it took to blossom." - Anais Nin
This is my story.
I was 'groomed' to accept abuse and violence since I was a young girl. I had no other reference in life. As a young child I learned that abusers were embraced and protected. There was no help, nowhere to go and no one to tell. When my great uncle was allowed, by my own parents, to continually molest me for years, nothing I said or did could make it stop.
Sadly, as an adult, I have discovered the rules of this game have not changed much. My abusers, still, have been repeatedly embraced and protected.
My married life continued the pattern of my childhood. After surviving 20 years of multiple pregnancies, sleep deprivation, ritual, emotional, and mental abuse, rapes and physical assaults within my marriage, I had finally suffered a severe physical/emotional breakdown due to the constant ongoing violence. While in this near catatonic state, I was again physically assaulted and raped by my husband, causing my eighth pregnancy despite the warnings of my doctors.
Despite all this, I was able to recover, birth my baby and cherish bonding and breastfeeding. After undergoing several tests and psychiatric evaluations, my physicians stated I was completely recovered.
After a temporary custody hearing, I was forced by an order of the Court, and by my ex-husband, his attorney, his family and religious supporters, to do something that raged against my good conscience, my common sense and against all my motherly instincts.
On March 10, 1996, a Court Order signed by Judge Albin Norblad forcibly removed my nursing baby and young children from me. I obeyed the Court Order and gave my baby and children to my ex-husband. I drove to the hospital, rented a breast-pump and later collapsed in shock. I could not understand what had happened or why. I have not yet recovered from the shock, perhaps I never will.
The price for my own safety and freedom was an imposed, unnatural and unwanted separation from my eight children. The injustice committed against me is not just the physical separation from my children, but the willful desecration of the mother-child relationship and bond, a sacred spiritual and emotional entity.
Forcibly taking a mother's children, and then controlling her emotionally by withholding contact must be publicly recognized as one of the greatest forms of 'mis-use' of the American justice system and one of the the greatest hidden vehicles for wide-spread socially approved physical and emotional abuse and control.
Dr. Clarissa Estes writes, 'A culture that requires harm to one's soul in order to follow the culture's proscriptions is a very sick culture indeed.' I think this is true. By obeying the Order of the Court, I betrayed my soul, my children and myself. I was forced to make a choice that no mother should ever be forced to make.
My abusive husband had threatened if I left him he would take the children, and this is what the court allowed him to do. My husband had committed multiple crimes against me according to Oregon statutes and laws (Chapter 743, Oregon Laws 1971, 163.375), including repeated rape, sexual assault and physical assault when I was incapacitated due to abuse - but despite my extensive documentation and witnesses, he was embraced, rewarded, faces no consequences for his actions, and my children remain in his custody, forbidden to contact me in any way to this day, thirteen years later. Since that time he has continued to tell my children that I am 'evil' even though several of them expressed desires to see me.
My wealthy ex husband has continually harassed me in court, demanding child support in excess of my income to the point where I was driven to disability and homelessness. I have spent tens of thousands of dollars on court and legal fees. My passport has been revoked due to the support monies I cannot afford to pay. My ex husband and his attorney have attempted to get my driver's license revoked, also.
I have had no legal representation for the past 14 years. There is presently a $5,825 Summary Judgment against me through the Polk County District Attorney's office for back child support.
I have extensive documentation in my published book including affidavits from physicians, co-workers and neighbors, court transcripts of nearly 42 court related hearings, tape and videos, medical and mental reports and witnesses to substantiate the nature of the crimes against me and the true circumstances of my family and children. I believe when this case comes to light, someone will have to answer for the abuse and silent violence I have suffered in the Polk, Marion, and Wasco County courts.
Marital and ritual abuse has evolved into legal abuse.
The advocacy system, as is, has been able to offer me nothing. Even though I have written hundreds of letters throughout the years to Oregon state legislators, to the media, lawyers and legal advocates, to the Governor of Oregon's Council on Domestic Violence and Attorney General Hardy Meyers Sexual Assault Task Force in an effort to seek help and promote awareness for the need for better laws for women and children escaping domestic violence and abusive situations, there is often no response at all from these advocacy groups.
Legal Aid cannot and will not help and U.S. Staff Attorney for Domestic Violence, Poverty and Homelessness, Naomi Sterns, in Washington DC, was of no help either. My case history in Oregon courts has been documented by many advocates, including my counselor and mentor, Dr. Barbara May, as one of Oregon's most violent and obscene cases.
Many people have been perplexed by this lack of help. Benton County District Attorney John Haroldson has written of my story, 'BONSHEA' also illustrates the degree to which the legal system can also be used as a vehicle to further perpetuate abuse even after the victim has chosen to take a stand against the abuse.
LIFE Magazine, USA Today and many other organizations have featured articles on women in prison in America. They report that women prisoners are allowed to keep their babies with them for eighteen months while serving their sentences (Florida Statute 944-24). I am haunted by this single question. Why was I treated lower than a criminal in America and I have no criminal record and have no history of alcohol, drug or child abuse? Why did I lose all contact with my children when I was a VICTIM of a crime? Why was custody of these children given to the PERPETRATOR of these crimes with no questions asked?
I have received and continue to receive emails from men and women all over the United States commenting that my story inspires them and has helped them in their own recovery from traumatic experiences and abuse. I hope that by sharing my story people can be encouraged and darkness can be made into light.
Our judicial system needs 'our voice' so that injustices that others and I have suffered will not continue to occur.
*Recommended website for trauma survivors: http://abusesanctuary.blogspot.com/
I have a personal story to tell of a lifetime of abuse: childhood abuse, marital abuse, mental and physical abuse, sexual abuse, ritual abuse and now finally judicial abuse, condoned first within some of the fundamental, evangelical Christian movements (cults) that thrive today, and now within the very court system of my own country. My story is about the overwhelming stigma that comes with abuse. My story is also about survival and overcoming, truly 'Making Light of the Dark.'
A few years ago, I believed by sharing my truth and breaking my silence, my very life would be threatened. Breaking the silence and 'telling secrets' takes courage. But I have discovered there is more danger in keeping secrets. If violence cannot be talked about, it cannot be stopped. I truly believe more victims would be willing to share their pain, fear and shame if they could expect to be believed, respected and vindicated.
This is my story.
I was 'groomed' to accept abuse and violence since I was a young girl. I had no other reference in life. As a young child I learned that abusers were embraced and protected. There was no help, nowhere to go and no one to tell. When my great uncle was allowed, by my own parents, to continually molest me for years, nothing I said or did could make it stop.
Sadly, as an adult, I have discovered the rules of this game have not changed much. My abusers, still, have been repeatedly embraced and protected.
My married life continued the pattern of my childhood. After surviving 20 years of multiple pregnancies, sleep deprivation, ritual, emotional, and mental abuse, rapes and physical assaults within my marriage, I had finally suffered a severe physical/emotional breakdown due to the constant ongoing violence. While in this near catatonic state, I was again physically assaulted and raped by my husband, causing my eighth pregnancy despite the warnings of my doctors.
Despite all this, I was able to recover, birth my baby and cherish bonding and breastfeeding. After undergoing several tests and psychiatric evaluations, my physicians stated I was completely recovered.
At this point, after experiencing forty years of violence and abuse in my personal life, I had had enough. I intuitively knew that continuing this way of life would eventually kill me. I went to Oregon's courts for help and protection for myself and my children. Nothing had prepared me for the horrors that I would experience in what we call 'Oregon's justice and legal system.'
After a temporary custody hearing, I was forced by an order of the Court, and by my ex-husband, his attorney, his family and religious supporters, to do something that raged against my good conscience, my common sense and against all my motherly instincts.
On March 10, 1996, a Court Order signed by Judge Albin Norblad forcibly removed my nursing baby and young children from me. I obeyed the Court Order and gave my baby and children to my ex-husband. I drove to the hospital, rented a breast-pump and later collapsed in shock. I could not understand what had happened or why. I have not yet recovered from the shock, perhaps I never will.
The price for my own safety and freedom was an imposed, unnatural and unwanted separation from my eight children. The injustice committed against me is not just the physical separation from my children, but the willful desecration of the mother-child relationship and bond, a sacred spiritual and emotional entity.
Forcibly taking a mother's children, and then controlling her emotionally by withholding contact must be publicly recognized as one of the greatest forms of 'mis-use' of the American justice system and one of the the greatest hidden vehicles for wide-spread socially approved physical and emotional abuse and control.
Dr. Clarissa Estes writes, 'A culture that requires harm to one's soul in order to follow the culture's proscriptions is a very sick culture indeed.' I think this is true. By obeying the Order of the Court, I betrayed my soul, my children and myself. I was forced to make a choice that no mother should ever be forced to make.
My abusive husband had threatened if I left him he would take the children, and this is what the court allowed him to do. My husband had committed multiple crimes against me according to Oregon statutes and laws (Chapter 743, Oregon Laws 1971, 163.375), including repeated rape, sexual assault and physical assault when I was incapacitated due to abuse - but despite my extensive documentation and witnesses, he was embraced, rewarded, faces no consequences for his actions, and my children remain in his custody, forbidden to contact me in any way to this day, thirteen years later. Since that time he has continued to tell my children that I am 'evil' even though several of them expressed desires to see me.
My wealthy ex husband has continually harassed me in court, demanding child support in excess of my income to the point where I was driven to disability and homelessness. I have spent tens of thousands of dollars on court and legal fees. My passport has been revoked due to the support monies I cannot afford to pay. My ex husband and his attorney have attempted to get my driver's license revoked, also.
I have had no legal representation for the past 14 years. There is presently a $5,825 Summary Judgment against me through the Polk County District Attorney's office for back child support.
I have extensive documentation in my published book including affidavits from physicians, co-workers and neighbors, court transcripts of nearly 42 court related hearings, tape and videos, medical and mental reports and witnesses to substantiate the nature of the crimes against me and the true circumstances of my family and children. I believe when this case comes to light, someone will have to answer for the abuse and silent violence I have suffered in the Polk, Marion, and Wasco County courts.
Marital and ritual abuse has evolved into legal abuse.
The advocacy system, as is, has been able to offer me nothing. Even though I have written hundreds of letters throughout the years to Oregon state legislators, to the media, lawyers and legal advocates, to the Governor of Oregon's Council on Domestic Violence and Attorney General Hardy Meyers Sexual Assault Task Force in an effort to seek help and promote awareness for the need for better laws for women and children escaping domestic violence and abusive situations, there is often no response at all from these advocacy groups.
Legal Aid cannot and will not help and U.S. Staff Attorney for Domestic Violence, Poverty and Homelessness, Naomi Sterns, in Washington DC, was of no help either. My case history in Oregon courts has been documented by many advocates, including my counselor and mentor, Dr. Barbara May, as one of Oregon's most violent and obscene cases.
Many people have been perplexed by this lack of help. Benton County District Attorney John Haroldson has written of my story, 'BONSHEA' also illustrates the degree to which the legal system can also be used as a vehicle to further perpetuate abuse even after the victim has chosen to take a stand against the abuse.
I have not had any visitation privileges with my children for 12 years, and was ordered in December 2003 by Judge Paula Brownhill that I could not visit, phone, write or send gifts to my children. I had to give away the Christmas presents that I had purchased for my children that year due to Judge Paula Brownhilll's court order. My children have been completely forbidden from having any relationship with me or respect for me. They have been severely brainwashed against me by my ex husband, his family, attorneys, school and religious educators. I miss them and worry for their safety every day.
LIFE Magazine, USA Today and many other organizations have featured articles on women in prison in America. They report that women prisoners are allowed to keep their babies with them for eighteen months while serving their sentences (Florida Statute 944-24). I am haunted by this single question. Why was I treated lower than a criminal in America and I have no criminal record and have no history of alcohol, drug or child abuse? Why did I lose all contact with my children when I was a VICTIM of a crime? Why was custody of these children given to the PERPETRATOR of these crimes with no questions asked?
I have received and continue to receive emails from men and women all over the United States commenting that my story inspires them and has helped them in their own recovery from traumatic experiences and abuse. I hope that by sharing my story people can be encouraged and darkness can be made into light.
Our judicial system needs 'our voice' so that injustices that others and I have suffered will not continue to occur.
*Recommended website for trauma survivors: http://abusesanctuary.blogspot.com/
BOOK REVIEWS
"Every so often a book is written that touches the heart. This is such a book. BONSHEÁ is an unforgettable story that will leave an indelible mark on your psyche." – Addie Archer, Washington
BONSHEA pierces through the darkness that hides the legal system's routine abuse of mothers and children."
BONSHEA is a work of immense courage, a true tale of heartbreak and salvation. By exposing what was done to her by the court system, by the religious authorities and by their enabling cronies as she took the moral high ground by leaving an abusive husband, the author gives readers the tremendous gift of her hard-won insight and spiritual awakening. As shocking as it may be, Coral's story resonates with the truth. I hear pleas for help from protective mothers like Coral every day, week after week, year after year--all of them pleading for their very birthright, their greatest right, which is to be a mother.
She pinpoints, with heart-piercing accuracy, the historical hatred of females and of the feminine that has permeated societies, including our present one, for eons. Her personal story of living with and divorcing an abusive "religious" man who was cheered on by the community's religious, governmental, and legal authorities mirrors the persecution of all women who, like Coral, choose to say "no" to male dominance and power. These include Middle Age "witches," midwives, mothers who protect their children from a father's abuse, mothers who dare to have careers and mothers who elect to stay home with their children. Coral also calls out for the only true cure for the dark side of human nature, and that is to live in the light.
Coral's work is a special blessing for me and for my sisters throughout this country. Not a single particle of the wisdom Coral shares misses the mark. - Maureen T. Hannah, Ph.D. "Chair, Battered Mother's Custody Conference, Albany, New York, June 8, 2007 Five Star Review
BONSHEA provides incredibility disconcerting insights into the labyrinth of self-proclaimed morally self-righteous communities within our society. No article about Coral's crusade to correct the injustices she has suffered can truly capture the personal strengths which Coral demonstrates on every page of her book. It is very difficult to feel Ms. Theill's pain without actually reading her story, although many of us can empathize with people in abusive relationships. Very little occurs which does not provide insights into other conflicts. Gang violence, the death and destruction Sunnis and Shiites perpetrate upon each other daily around the world, the hate between Protestants and Catholics in Northern Ireland, are all variations on the "cultism" which has caused Coral so much pain. Without this understanding, some could say Coral is the victim of isolated acts of violence by one person. That is not the case. She is the victim of a morally tainted community within an uncaring broader society. Regardless of the future, nothing will allow Coral to recapture the past. Yes, she can pray for having some of the burden taken from her shoulders, and indeed, she has lost much, but clearly Coral is not saying "stop my suffering" because stopping the pain is something only she alone can do. Ms. Theill is asking for others to understand how she has suffered, and the truth of why she has suffered.
The power of her life is not that she escaped from a "cult", but that she continues to serve as an agent of change. This is not a "she said/he said" tale of abuse, but rather a self-damning expose of her struggle to survive. She is not a martyr. She is a victim of the too frequent chasm between a blind adherence to an interpretation of laws and a true understanding of justice. You may find BONSHEA's an extremely difficult book to find in your public libraries, although it is available for "purchase" or within the halls of academe. When I was first introduced to Ms, Theill's' tome, I found it almost impossible to obtain a copy in the libraries of the "enlightened" politically sensitive communities surrounding our Nation's capital, a condition which has not improved. The question which may be too painful for us to answer. Is religiously justified domestic violence the reality which our society cannot face? Making truths inaccessible does not change the truth."
- Bruce McLelland, Washington D.C., July 28, 2007 - 5 Star Review
This book is a deeply moving account of Coral's determination to regain the shattered pieces of Her Self! It is raw, honest and at times, overwhelming, especially in her portrayal of psychological oppression. Coral writes with candour about the injustices she experienced (i.e. some religious groups and the legal system). Her account is well documented and includes a terrific resource section.
BONSHEÁ Making Light of the Dark, is not a light read, but I believe it is a necessary read...especially for those who wonder how the phases of personal abuse unfold and ultimately - psychological shattering occurs. I deeply respect Coral's determination to speak out! I know that this book will serve to support others in their personal journey back to wholeness. – Joanna Trainor, Intuitive Counselor, Montana
Coral's book, BONSHEÁ Making Light of the Dark, is a gut-wrenching, heartbreaking account of how life truly is for too many of our fellow humans. I, too, am acquainted with childhood abuse and violence, personally and in my professional life as an RN., Massage and Craniosacral Therapist. I have had extensive contact with clients who are living this "hell" and have seen the terrible effects of abuse of many kinds. The kind of violence, abuse and suppression perpetrated by so many of our organized religions and government agencies is truly shocking and can only continue by our refusal to look AT IT rather than the OTHER WAY.
I lack adequate words to describe my admiration for Coral's courage and tenacity in this accounting of her experiences, indeed in her very survival. This book is already providing validation and courage for many victims of abuse and an awakening for all as to the extent of this shameful situation. I look forward to the dawning of a new reality where the control, suppression and oppression I have seen will no longer be accepted. it is my great pleasure to count Coral as my friend. Namaste." –Myra Cook...RN, CMT, CST...Montana, Five Star Review
I lack adequate words to describe my admiration for Coral's courage and tenacity in this accounting of her experiences, indeed in her very survival. This book is already providing validation and courage for many victims of abuse and an awakening for all as to the extent of this shameful situation. I look forward to the dawning of a new reality where the control, suppression and oppression I have seen will no longer be accepted. it is my great pleasure to count Coral as my friend. Namaste." –Myra Cook...RN, CMT, CST...Montana, Five Star Review
The most important lesson learned from BONSHEÁ - Making Light of the Dark is that it is urgent and imperative that we teach our daughters (and our sons) a different reality than the one Coral lived. Our daughters must be strong and hold up their heads---they must look themselves, as well as husbands, bosses, judges and even God in the eye and know their own worth and the strength of their own Spirit. This book is not joyful because it recounts real tragedy–but the fact the story is told by the one who survived makes it a very hopeful book. – Judy Bennett, Editor, Graphic Designer, Oregon
This is a story of what happens whenever evil demands that an individual sacrifice their personal happiness, integrity, and well-being, for the sake of another. As such, it's a universal story, told on behalf of anyone who has experienced such betrayal of trust and love, to whatever degree. Coral and I, and many others like us, made a choice when we said "no" to that level of sacrifice-our choice was as simple and desperate as this: we could stay and live on our knees, or we could leave and risk death on our feet. We both chose the dignity of the latter. The price we've had to pay, not only for our freedom, but for our very lives; has been an imposed, unnatural, and unwanted separation from our children. It's a choice that no woman should ever be forced to make, and a price no mother should ever be forced to pay for the sake of her own safety. – Cynthia Kidder...Poet and co-founder of the NW Poetry Coalition...Washington, Five Star Review
BONSHEÁ engaged my attention immediately, and then enraged me. The author has endured huge suffering at the hands of brutalists hiding behind the masks of pseudo Christianity and "justice for all." The author continues to stride toward the light in her own life-at huge personal cost-and to bring her story forward for all to consider and act upon. – Karen Goldammer...South Dakota, Five Star Review
An incredible honest, intimate, and shocking look at one woman's arduous journey towards safety and freedom from an abusive husband and his religious-cult mentality. Coral's story, BONSHEÁ: Making Light of the Dark is an amazing account of sacrifice, betrayal, and a woman's desperate attempt to extract justice from the American legal system for the safety of her children. BONSHEÁ is a wake-up call and a tribute to the "spirit of women." – Tashi Gremar, Teacher, Oregon, Five Star Review
Coral, I reviewed your book and read the first chapter from your website. I was skeptical, to tell you the truth, as I have read "tell-all" books that have had little merit. I found your book to be quite different, however. Although you have a sad story to tell, you do so as a tool to inspire others. You are very articulate, by the way, and the book reads very smooth. I will not only feature it on my website but will order one from you for my own personal reading. I specialize in abuse -- nearly all patients I see have been abused and I am just in the process of having my own book published on treatment strategies for therapists. I understand the dynamics of your past very well. My best wishes to you. I listen to abuse cases every single day and rarely does one touch my heart, but I am a mother of 5 and have raised 2 others through their teenage years, so my heart goes out to you. - Dr. Catherine Swanson Cain, PhD, LMFT, Pediatric Behavioral Health Resources, LLC, Maryville TN
Coral Theill's BONSHEÁ: Making Light of the Dark is a "must read" for all interested in women, women's health, children, and our court systems. I find myself going back, again and again, to re-read parts that strike so close to my heart. Coral is such an utterly honest voice telling of a deeply caring person that has traveled an unforgettable journey in life. This story reaches out to anyone that reads it. It touches lives in a remarkable way that is most profound. It deeply saddened me to realize that in this day and age, violence in the shelter of one's home, under the guise of religion is condoned and sanctioned. it is unbelievable that our local court would sanction the removal of a nursing infant from the mother. Domestic violence is tolerated by our society and in the courtrooms. It continues as a "silent violence." Coral has told a sad, truthful story to her children and the world to enable them to make this a better place for everyone to live. – Jean Weisensee, R.N., Oregon, Five Star Review
Coral Theill's BONSHEÁ: Making Light of the Dark is a "must read" for all interested in women, women's health, children, and our court systems. I find myself going back, again and again, to re-read parts that strike so close to my heart. Coral is such an utterly honest voice telling of a deeply caring person that has traveled an unforgettable journey in life. This story reaches out to anyone that reads it. It touches lives in a remarkable way that is most profound. It deeply saddened me to realize that in this day and age, violence in the shelter of one's home, under the guise of religion is condoned and sanctioned. it is unbelievable that our local court would sanction the removal of a nursing infant from the mother. Domestic violence is tolerated by our society and in the courtrooms. It continues as a "silent violence." Coral has told a sad, truthful story to her children and the world to enable them to make this a better place for everyone to live. – Jean Weisensee, R.N., Oregon, Five Star Review
Coral Anika Theill, author, advocate, and survivor, teaches that we become healed healers when we embrace our own suffering and pain - "Making Light of the Dark." Coral is available for speaking engagements and/or forums or discussions.
I remind those around me to not forget the millions of women and children who are veterans of intimate wars and private anguish and for whom terror at home is business as usual. In America, the land of the free and the brave, one woman is physically assaulted every nine seconds, one woman is raped every two minutes, and one in three girls and one in five boys will be sexually assaulted by the age of eighteen.
Soft cover copies of Coral's 380-page book, BONSHEÁ: Making Light of the Dark, are $23.95 plus $4 for shipping and handling. (Hardcover: $33.95)
Or order online at: http://iuniverse.com http://barnesandnoble.com or http://amazon.com or from your local bookstore.
BONSHEÁ Making Light of the Dark
by Coral Anika Theill
Subjects and Issues Addressed
Spiritual and Ritual Abuse
Domestic Violence
Psychological and Physical Abuse
Rape/Marital Rape
Oregon Rape, Marital Rape and Sexual Abuse Laws
Mental Illness
Stigma Associated with Mental Illness
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
Childhood Sexual Molestation and Abuse
Stockholm Syndrome
Societal Stockholm Syndrome
Spirituality - Mind, Body and Spirit
Personal Peace, Wellness and Wholeness
Finding Your Harmony, Center and Balance in the Midst of Personal Tragedy and Crisis
Quantum Physics
Love Motivation vs. Fear Motivation
Oppression of Women and Children Exposed
Cults and Religions
Patriarchal and Matriarchal Societies, Matilda Joselyn Gage
Native American History, Spirituality and Philosophy
Christianity and Catholicism
Child Sexual Molestation, Rape and Torture by Priests and Nuns
at Catholic Indian Boarding Schools and Christian Organizations
Judicial Injustice in Oregon
Pastors, Elders and Christians Exposed in Oregon
Bridgeport Community Church, Momouth, Oregon
Silent Violence
Steps to a Non-Violent Society
Compassion, Unconditional Love, Peace and Non-Judgment
If this story has fallen into your hands, I say, "Shalom." There are no accidents in life. I hope by reading this account of my life, you will be encouraged to remember who you truly are.
I believe we all embrace the hope and dream that humanity can be free to act humanely and that someday all people will resonate Christ-consciousness, compassion, non-judgment and peace toward one another.
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