Oregon District 8 Senator Betsy Close, Marty Warner, Spiritual Terrorism, Ritual Abuse, Judge Norblad, Bill Gothard, Pastor Ron & Marijo Sutter, Bridgeport Community Chapel
Spiritual and ritual abuse is a serious form of abuse which occurs when a person in a cult-religious authority or a person with a unique spiritual practice misleads and maltreats another person in the name of a deity (god) or church or in the mystery of any spiritual concept. Spiritual abuse often refers to an abuser using spiritual or cult-religious rank in taking advantage of the victim's spirituality (mentality and passion on spiritual matters) by putting the victim in a state of unquestioning obedience to an abusive authority. Spiritual abuse refers to the use of spiritual knowledge to deprive, torture, degrade, isolate, control, or (in rare and extreme cases) even kill others. It is used by evil-minded spiritualists, sometimes, including cult-religious leaders, to gain advantage, dominate, or exercise control over others. Being an "action of man," in worst case scenarios, spiritual abuse can otherwise be considered a form of "spiritual terrorism."
Spiritual abuse is the maltreatment of a person ostensibly in the name of a god, deity, faith, cult-religion, or church, whether habitual or not.
How I Became a Brood Mare and Egg Donor for the Church and State: Rape is Torture
Coral Anika TheillUnlawful, malicious, criminal acts have been committed against me and my children by judges, attorneys and religious, hostile courtroom witnesses.
This is Zachary David Warner and me
(Zachary's mother), July 1995 in Independence, Oregon at our home. I have not
been allowed to see my son, since 1998, nor allowed to write him or send him
gifts since 2003.
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(SALEM) - LIFE Magazine, USA Today and many other
magazines have featured articles on women in prison in America. They report that
women prisoners are allowed to keep their babies with them for eighteen months
while serving their sentences, (Florida Statute 944.24). I am haunted by this
single question. Why was I treated lower than a criminal by Oregon's judicial
law system? I was a faithful wife and mother for almost twenty years. Presently,
I have fewer rights than a criminal in America and I have no criminal record and
have no history of alcohol, drug or child abuse.
"When courts blame victims and fail to hold abusers accountable,
they reinforce abuser behavior, subvert justice, disempower the victims, teach
children that abusive behavior is permissible and may even be rewarded, and
reinforce the cycle of violence. Most batterers know they can bring criminal and
contempt charges at no expense to the abusers, but they take an enormous
financial and emotional cost on their victims. The result is that many abusive
men drag on the litigation and file spurious claims openly acknowledging they
are trying to drive their victims onto welfare or into homelessness; half of all
homeless women and children in the U.S. are homeless because of domestic
violence." - Joan Zorza, Esq
I believe to heal from our trauma, we must be able to tell the
absolute truth and face it squarely. Alienation from our memories dooms us to
live in a constant present, cut off from the past and the future. I remember so
I can help others see that they can help themselves.
Betsy Close
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I am sharing intimate details of my life because a grave
injustice has been committed. My situation begs for resolution and justice.
Unlawful, malicious, and criminal acts have been committed against me and my
children by judges, attorneys and religious, hostile witnesses [Betsy Close]
in a courtroom of law. My story and transcripts not only reveal a lifetime
of child abuse, marital abuse, and the ritual abuse of religion, it exposes the
physical and mental abuse a woman is subjected to in our “judicial system.” This
case remains unchallenged.
I was physically and mentally incapacitated during the time of my
illness and unable to consent, and suffered repeated sexual assaults [rapes] by
my husband, Mr. Marty Warner. My children were allowed to remain with the man
accused of these crimes. My contact with them was completely, suddenly and
arbitrarily removed per a Court Order by Judge Albin Norblad on March 10,
1996.
Mr. John Benson, an attorney working on my case in Mr. Gearings’
office, stated, "Kathy, [Coral] you need a criminal lawyer not a divorce
attorney. By legal definition, Mr. Warner could be charged with ten
counts of kidnapping." That was his view of my having been forced to go
to all the cult meetings and "counseling" sessions with abusive counselor, Mr.
Bill Heard and others against my will. In 1994, I was also dropped off at the
"Wings of Love" half-way house, on Killingsworth, Portland, Oregon, and the
Bill Gothard Indianapolis training center in Indianapolis for
"God to break me,"
Mr. Warner and his pastors said.At the Bill Gothard Institute, during a time I was experiencing post-partum depression, a breakdown and partial stroke, the abusive Christian employees at the Bill Gothard Institute told me God was punishing me because I had a "Jezebel spirit" and had not learned to submit to my husband and God's authorities. I was accused of witchcraft and they tried, through prayer and exorcism, to cast demons out of me on a daily basis. (My husband and his counselors believed that psychology was in error to the Word of God.)
Mr. Warner and his pastors said.At the Bill Gothard Institute, during a time I was experiencing post-partum depression, a breakdown and partial stroke, the abusive Christian employees at the Bill Gothard Institute told me God was punishing me because I had a "Jezebel spirit" and had not learned to submit to my husband and God's authorities. I was accused of witchcraft and they tried, through prayer and exorcism, to cast demons out of me on a daily basis. (My husband and his counselors believed that psychology was in error to the Word of God.)
Mr. Bill Gothard is charismatic, just as Jim
Jones was. His organization (Bill Gothard Institue) and ideology can be
classified as a cult. He is well respected and admired by millions of
fundamental Christians in America and city and government officials, but he uses
oppression, brainwashing and mind control tactics to deceive. I remember feeling
traumatized by the leaders at the institute. While I was being spiritually and
mentally abused by Bill Gothard's staff, I remember I looked at myself in the
mirror, touching my reflection and saying, "Kathy all gone, Kathy all
gone." She was. (Read article on my experiences at the Bill Gothard
training center published at Alternet.org http://www.alternet.org/
Judge Albin Norblad laughs about Rape during court hearings
Norblad
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Judge Norblad’s lengthy career has included a number of
controversial and high profile cases. As a juvenile court judge during the
1970’s, Norblad made hundreds of unpopular decisions, reportedly sending more
youths to MacLaren Youth Correctional Facility than any other judge in the
state. He is known as the “hanging judge.”
In 2002, the judge was disciplined by the Oregon Commission on
Judicial Fitness and Disability with a thirty-day suspension following a drunk
driving incident, an action which was upheld on appeal to the state Supreme
Court.
On March 1, 1996, during the temporary custody hearing, Judge
Albin Norblad asked my husband, while he was on the witness stand and under
oath, why he had impregnated me during the time I was suffering a mental/nervous
breakdown.
POLK COUNTY OREGON COURT TRANSCRIPT March 1996
JUDGE
NORBLAD: "Sir, I have one question. Maybe this is curiosity, more than it has
to do with the case. If your wife was going through so much emotional
difficulties, she realized it, and you realized it, why did you attempt to have
an additional child and two pregnancies?
- MR. WARNER: We didn't attempt to have an additional child.
- JUDGE NORBLAD: No, you succeeded, I guess.
- MR. WARNER: Yes, sir. Zachary's pregnancy was a surprise. We were
trying to avoid that.
- (Note: No contraceptives were used. I was living with my brother
out-of-state at the time.)
- JUDGE NORBLAD: Twice?
- MR. WARNER: The other pregnancy was a surprise as well. Both
those.
- (Note: Pregnancy No. 1 during my mental/nervous breakdown. This
pregnancy ended in miscarriage.)
- JUDGE NORBLAD: Okay.
- MR. WARNER: I was very committed to doing my part to avoid
pregnancy.
- JUDGE NORBLAD: All right. Thank you. You can step down.
- MR. WARNER: As you can tell, Kathy and I have not had too much
difficulty conceiving. (Laughs) (Kathy was my former name before I legally
changed my name in 1999)
- JUDGE NORBLAD: Yeah, I got that figured out. (Laughs)
My friends and I wonder what Mr. Warner meant by, "I was very
committed to doing my part to avoid a pregnancy." These two pregnancies pushed
my health farther over the edge. It was not a humorous situation. What is
humorous about rape?
Helen Benedict 1992, Virgin or Vamp wrote, "I prefer to
characterize rape simply as a form of torture. Like the torturer, the rapist is
motivated by the urge to dominate, humiliate and destroy his victim. Like a
torturer, he does so by using the most intimate acts available to humans -
sexual ones."
Throughout our marriage Mr. Warner often referred to me as a "cow
or a horse in need of being bred." Mr. Warner insisted on sexual relations
immediately before and after the birth of each my eight children. He had no
regard for the risk of infection he subjected me to or the pain he caused. He
used me sexually when I was physically ill and during my breakdown.
The most painful and insidious act committed against me was being
raped by my ex-husband during the period of my physical/mental nervous breakdown
in 1993-1994.
Until now, to survive the court trauma and shock, I kept my
feelings regarding the rapes deep within me. I can't find that woman,–the empty
shell with bandaged wrists any more. She was mentally gone, spiritually stripped
and being used like a whore and a brood mare by the man who "legally owned
her."
This fact leaves me at a loss for words and is probably one of
the reasons I felt compelled to change my name. I don't know Kathy Hall,
anymore. I believe the day she was raped while so physically, mentally and
emotionally broken, she died.
Severe trauma can so impact our ability to recognize our self,
that even the face in a mirror is a stranger.
On April 22, 1999, I legally changed my name to Coral Anika
Theill at the Marion County Courthouse, in Salem, Oregon. Kathy Hall was laid to
rest.
Andrea Dworkin, in her book, Intercourse, analyzes the
institution of sexual intercourse and how that institution, as defined and
controlled by patriarchy, has proven to be a devastating enslavement of
woman.
I was not the only woman Mr. Warner treated badly. Between
1993-1994, Mr. Warner was a supervisor over Debbie Custis, at Hewlett Packard.
Sexual harassment allegations on a gender basis were reported against Mr. Marty
Warner by fellow employees and a former supervisor who worked with Ms. Custis.
He continually harangued her that she should be at home–women did not belong in
the work place, and he made suggestive and disparaging comments when they
disagreed, such as, “I don’t know if this is a personal problem we’re having or
if this is something you are going through at this time of the month.” (Court
Affidavit and Documentation http://coralanikatheill.com/Documentation_-_Letters.html).
Mr. Warner was never reprimanded for his behavior and suffered no
consequences. Ms. Custis found Mr. Warner's derogatory attitude towards women so
difficult she tried to transfer to another department. She was hired by another
department within the company, but her supervisor and facilities manager would
not allow her to transfer. Mrs. Custis is still healing from the abuse she
suffered from Mr. Warner on the job site and worked in the same department with
Mr. Warner until he transferred to Clair Company, Corvallis, Oregon, in the fall
of 2001.
Two other women who he abused in the workplace and in our own
home also contacted me. One of them sought the assistance of an attorney, the
second women regrets that she did not have the monies to seek legal help and
protection from Mr. Warner.
When I was six to ten years old, my narcissistic and sadistic
mother trafficked me each night. I was sent to an upstairs apartment where my
alcoholic great-uncle lived. He was a convicted murderer (killed his seven year
old daughter) and a convicted sex offender (raped his three daughters). I was
repeatedly molested each night during these years. I begged for help, but no
help came. During my elementary years, I was also severely beaten by my
step-grandfather.
My mother received great satisfaction observing the abuse I
suffered. She was cold and demanding. My life with my mother was portrayed in
the movies, “Carrie” and “Mommy Dearest.” She passed away in 2010. While
speaking to her by phone, she expressed no remorse for what she had done to me.
Just hearing her voice re-traumatized me. In her letters, she acknowledged what
she did to me, but felt no responsibility.
Throughout the years I did not harbor feelings of resentment or
bitterness toward my mother, great-uncle, and my abusers, but instinctively
knew, even as a young child, I had been violated and those who were suppose to
protect me had taken something very sacred of mine.
Feelings of shame, uncertainty and chaos would haunt me in the
years to come as a result of living in a home where no one listened and
boundaries were violated. The memories of my childhood were painful because
those I looked to for guidance and protection never “showed up.”
Because I confronted my mother about the abuse I suffered several
years ago, she disinherited me and left her and my brother’s sizeable estate to
my well-to-do cousin, Beverly Moerke, Walla Walla, WA, and me, $1.00. Beverly, a
devout Catholic, sent me a $1.00 check this past year. Even though I live under
poverty level due to disabilities, I never cashed the check. Friends confronted
Ms. Moerke, but there was no response from her.
Although my home life as a child was very difficult, I became a
pilot at age 17, passed my FAA exams, was a straight A student,
co-valedictorian, President of honor society, volunteer worker and
secretary/court reporter for two Washington State Superior Court Judges by the
age of 19.
I was stalked and brutally raped by Marty Warner at age 19, in
Longview, WA. Mr. Warner was six years older than me. There was no one to tell,
nowhere to go. Due to the fundamental Christian ideology I had been exposed to,
I was pressured to believe I had to marry the person who raped me. Christian
friends and leaders said I was damaged merchandise - their interpretation.
I spoke with Marty Warner a month before our wedding date about
calling off the wedding. He dismissed my concerns as exaggerations and "cold
feet." Due to the eighteen previous years of severe child abuse: beatings,
emotional, verbal and sexual abuse, I had very few assertive or confrontational
skills to voice my opinions. I was easy prey for a predator such as Mr.
Warner.
I had not yet learned the spiritual principles of following your
own intuition, your life force, and creating harmony and balance in one's daily
life. I was caught up in a web of those who had assumed a role of authority in
my life. I allowed others to bring their chaos into my life.
When I married my ex-husband, Marty Warner, his religious belief
system and controlling personality was a continuation of all that I knew and was
familiar with from my childhood–destructive and devitalizing from religious
brainwashing. Like my mother, my husband was a narcissist and sociopath. They
see themselves as "martyrs." In their minds, they are superior to everyone.
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I believe, until healed from our past, we continue to attract the
lessons into our lives that will someday bring us wholeness.
In the years that followed my husband expected me to speak,
represent and teach "his truths" while in his presence and his absence. I was
not allowed to express my own beliefs and spiritual truths. Mr. Warner would
become violent when I did not conform to all his wishes. I often would share
with my children, "I am only doing this because I must obey your father."
Physically, I stayed in the marriage for almost twenty years.
Mentally, my bags were packed.
No one ever becomes accustomed to abuse and emotional blackmail.
No one ever becomes accustomed to abuse and emotional blackmail.
The inner struggle throughout the years of being forced to obey a
man who did not love me or care for my well-being became increasingly confusing
for me as I tried to honor my marriage vows. Although, I was encouraged by many
well-meaning men and women that this was “God’s will” for me, and that obeying
my husband was pleasing to God, I could not understand why I felt so miserable.
I felt like I was dying. I couldn’t understand why God would orchestrate a
system (marriage) that would oppress an individual and strip them of their
rights.
Inwardly, I despised being treated like a second-class citizen
while being told that this was “love.”
Mr. Warner seemed obsessed throughout our marriage with the evils
of the feminist movement and women’s rights in our society and often required me
to send books he approved, e.g., Mary Pride’s book, The Way Home, to women
friends and acquaintances. I later realized this was just another way of him
isolating me from women who had been a part of my life.
Most women were repulsed by this book and sent it back. Mr.
Warner’s ideology – no contraception – was consistent with the “Quiverful
Movement.” http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/
Mr. Warner would often comment that working under a woman at work
was in direct violation of his Scriptural convictions. He also had problems
with the fact that his fellow co-workers were women. He believed that women
belonged at
home. Mr. Warner was an avid supporter of Phyllis
Schlafly and Concerned
Women of America and presently supports the ministry of Brannon Howse. http://www.worldviewweekend.
I was not allowed access to money or knowledge about our
finances. I was forbidden to work outside the home or attend college classes. I
was allowed to buy groceries and I purchased most of the children's and my
clothes and household items at second-hand shops. I was not free to talk to
friends or family members. My husband read my incoming and outgoing mail. I was
not allowed to read a newspaper. He told me what books I could read and burned
books of mine if he disapproved. In the early 1990’s, Mr. Warner forced me to
watch the Rush Limbaugh program, which I found oppressive.
Shunned by Christian/Catholic Cult
In 1984, I left a Christian/Catholic cult community called
“People of Praise” my husband had forced me to attend. I also left the Catholic
Church in 1986. This was the beginning of months and years of emotional and
verbal threats from my husband. I was shunned by my husband and the cult leaders
and members due to my “disobedience” to my husband and the leaders. Mr. Warner
badgered me daily and asked me, “Whose church authority are you going to be
under?” I simply stated, “no one,” that I just wanted the right to ‘be.’ This
was an unsatisfactory answer for Mr. Warner.
Many friends, including Betsy
and Chris Close, were aware of Mr. Warner’s rage and violent behavior
towards me because I was no longer attending the ‘People of Praise” cult or the
Catholic Church with him. They offered a room in their house should the
children and I ever need to escape for safety reasons. I kept diapers for my
baby and clothes for the children in the tire compartment of our station wagon
for a period of six months or more.
In the early years of our marriage, my husband had made it very
clear to me, that if I ever tried to leave, his "empire" would remain intact.
The estate was his, and in his opinion, the children were a part of his estate.
Whatever I had brought into the marriage was his.
After our marriage in 1976, he took over my accounts and my car
and cashed the life insurance policy I bought when I was twelve years old. My
properties became his properties. I wasn't aware of how I was becoming enslaved
one day at a time.
During the two year episode of my breakdown (1993-1994), I was
mentally, emotionally and physically incapacitated. Mr. Warner refused to
acknowledge that I was experiencing serious problems. Instead, he and his
religious counselors told me and my children that I had a "spiritual problem"
and God was punishing me because I had not learned how to submit to my husband
and the religious authorities God had placed over me. I looked within my soul
and couldn't remember when I had not obeyed except for times I intervened when
Mr. Warner was verbally, emotionally or physically harming my children.
In 1993, a former neighbor and friend, Ms. Karen Lague, expressed
concerns to one of my physicians, Dr. Roger Jacobson, that I was trying to deal
with my difficulty by controlling my thoughts and working with some unlicensed
Christian counselors. At
this time, my husband, Betsy Close, my husband’s mother, Helen Warner, and my
husband’s friends and his counselor, Bill Heard, convinced me, while in my
weakened mental state, that I had a “sin” problem and that going to
psychiatrists and taking medications was “evil.”)
Birth of my 8th Child, Zachary
Zachary David is born at Albany General Hospital, Albany, Oregon,
on July 13, 1995. Mr. Warner tried to interfere with the physicians saving my
life. The doctors threatened to have him removed from the hospital room. I was
hemorrhaging. I stayed in the hospital, per doctors’ orders, for three days.
Zachary and I shared a close bond. I have not seen him since 1998 due to Court
Orders, poverty and the fact that I live under a state address protection
program from his father, Marty Warner.
Bridgeport Community Chapel in Dallas,
Oregon
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My children’s spiritual advisors are from Bridgeport Community
Church, Monmouth, Oregon, and unfortunately, Santiam Christian School. A
kindergarten teacher at Santiam Christian School announced, in front of the
class and parents, that my youngest son, Zachary, had been abandoned by his
mother (me) and that was why he was not participating in making a “Mother’s Day
gift.” This was a lie and a horrific statement to say to a child! Parents who
witnessed this incident phoned me to share their disapproval of the teacher’s
comments.
Benton County District Attorney John Haroldson and Dr. Barbara
May, Professor of Nursing, Linfield College, offered to professionally speak to
the teachers and administration of Santiam Christian School in 2003, but the
administration wanted nothing to do with hearing from these two experts and
learning any truth about my case. I sought an attorney to assist me with legal
rights due to my children’s school records. To date, Santiam Christian School
did not adhere to Oregon law in this matter.
Last year I called my oldest son and asked him if he would tell
my son, Zachary, who is still a minor, that I remembered his birthday. I said,
“Don't tell Zachary Happy Birthday for me, or else I will get contempt orders
from the Court, but tell him I reminded you about his birthday. I broke down and
wept as I relayed this message because it was just too crazy and insane!
Creating Healthy Boundaries
I choose to relinquish custody of my children in the fall of 1996
because I knew my older children were brainwashed and despised me. I also had no
monies for ongoing court costs. My decision to not seek custody of my baby and
younger children was a message to all eight of my children that they were loved
equally.
As I was climbing the stairs to relinquish custody through a
deposition, I collapsed. I remember going numb. My basic material instincts were
being forcibly cut away. I did not believe relinquishing custody was the right
thing to do. The courts gave me NO CHOICE, as you cannot choose one child over
another. Experts also acknowledged the fact that if I had custody of any of my
children, I would most likely be stalked and/or end up dead, due to my
ex-husband’s belief that his patriarchal empire remains intact.
Benton County District Attorney John Haroldson read my book in
2003. He introduced me at a speaking engagement and wrote a wonderful review for
my published book, BONSHEA: Making Light of the Dark at Amazon.com. In
November 2003 he wrote the “Forward” for my upcoming book about abuse and
recovery:
“Just as important as it is to realize that yearning for chaos is
not in your nature, it is equally important to remind oneself that others thrive
on chaos. That is their nature. Therefore, any association you have with such a
person will necessarily include the chaos they introduce into the equation. I
don’t think we ever stop exposing ourselves to such people, for it is as much a
part of human existence as anything else. What we do learn however is how to
create healthy boundaries so we do not continue to place ourselves in a
situation where we expose ourselves to the greatest degree of injury. “In a way,
it’s similar to the lessons we learn about fire. We depend on it, but maintain a
safe boundary where we can function without getting burned. That’s not to say
that there isn’t a time when we have to learn the hard way - a time when we
touch the flame, and feel the burn. It’s just that once we feel the pain, we
learn something, and then create a healthier boundary that allows us to coexist.
The biggest difference between this “fire” analogy, and experiencing a cruel
abusive relationship is that the flame of the fire is easy to see, and lets you
know you are being hurt if you get too close. Abusive relationships work in an
opposite order.” – District Attorney John Haroldson, Benton County, Oregon
District Attorney Haroldson also shared this profound insight:
that while I escaped long term violence in my home, I was shot with a poison
arrow in my back – the abrupt and permanent removal of my children as well as
ongoing court trauma. He said, “Coral, you have left a legacy. Your published
book, BONSHEA, is available to anyone you wishes to know the truth.
Choose life!”
I will never go away, I will not remain silent, I will give voice
to the violence. I will continue to share my truths in a legal and non-violent
manner. Non-violence does not threaten. Non-violence leans until something, some
day, moves. "Non-violence is a way of life for courageous people. Non-violence
seeks to defeat injustices, not people. Non-violence always chooses love instead
of hate. Non-violence holds that the universe is on the side of justice and that
right will prevail. The goal of non-violence is reconciliation and the beginning
of healing."–Mary Manin Morrissey
I am not an EGG DONOR FOR THE CHURCH AND
STATE. I believe individuals who support the removal of babies and
children from good, nurturing mothers should be held accountable, legally and
spiritually.
Radio Program: Listen to Coral
Theill's guest appearance on the "Majority United" Radio Program, Feb. 13, 2012:
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/
Review Coral Theill’s Military Articles at www.coralanikatheill.com
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Coral Anika Theill, reporter and advocate, is author of "BONSHEA:
Making Light of the Dark." Her published works address abuse, trauma
recovery and healing from post-traumatic stress and most recently, wounded
Marines, the Warrior Games and Montford Point Marines. Her writings have
encouraged and inspired numerous trauma victims and wounded Marines/soldiers
recovering from PTS and TBI. Coral's positive insights as a survivor have also
earned the respect of clinical therapists, advocates, attorneys, professors and
authors. BONSHEA
has been used as a college text for nursing students at Linfield College,
Portland, Oregon and can be ordered at: http://amazon.com, http://barnesandnoble.com or
http://iUniverse.com
"Those who serve may already know the toll of having to kill or be killed, but civilian society should also recognize that those who go into battle defending our way of life pay a price. I feel a deep gratitude to our servicemen and women and believe our society needs to do more to respect, understand and support those returning from deployment in conflict zones.” – Coral Anika Theill, Contributing Writer for Leatherneck Magazine
The Commandant
of the Marine Corps on Post-Traumatic Stress and Traumatic Brain Injury and
Invisible Battle Scars: Confronting the Stigma of PTS and TBI by Coral Anika Theill
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